Why do guys 'get off' so easy?

Last night my friend Shannon and I were having our weekly Wednesday date night complete with wine while watching our fav summer show, “So You Think You Can Dance” and we started talking about why haircuts are so expensive, how much we pay for waxing and the new work clothes we “need” but don’t want to spend the money on (would much rather buy something more fun!).... and we couldn’t help but wonder why do guys get off so much easier than girls… now I’m not talking about what your dirty mind thinks I am – but why do we end up spending so much more money than guys? Why is being a guy so much easier than being a girl?

During my daily IM chats with my friend Kristan we both started thinking more and more about this topic and here’s what we came up with...

Our TOP 15 REASONS why guys get off so much easier than girls!

15. Gift Buying. Why is it that guys buy gifts only for their immediate family (or the girl in their life) while girls buy for anyone/everyone they've had a conversation with in the past year?

14. Shoes. I am convinced that guys only have 2 pairs of shoes. 1 pair for work and 1 pair of sneakers, yet girls have 2 for every outfit (of course as Kristan says, “it's because we have to mix it up a bit!!”).

13. Underwear. While we are spending $50 or more now a days on bras and $15 on underwear, these guys get away with $2.99 on a pair of boxers and that’s if they are even wearing any!!

12. Formal Attire. Excited to go to that wedding next month and looking for the perfect dress, shoes, bag etc and wondering how you are going to afford it all? Well, have you ever thought about guys – how do they get so lucky to get away with the SAME suit every time!! I mean if we girls wore the same dress every time we’d be laughed at! The only thing a guy “might” do is to mix it up his outfit is add on a new $20 tie when we’ve already spent $300! Not fair!

11. Gray Hair. When men have gray hair it’s looked as though they are “distinguished,” you know that Richard Gere look we all love – while girls… well, we’d just look plain “old.”

10. Mani/Pedi's. The most attention guys give to their hands and feet are the once a month nail clippings and that's only because you've threatened they are not allowed to touch you until they're cut while we spend the money and time perfecting our look! (They should too ps)

9. Toiletries. A guy has at most six items in his bathroom - a toothbrush, toothpaste, shaving cream, razor, a bar of Dial soap, and a towel from the last hotel he stayed in. The average number of items in a typical woman’s bathroom is 437!

8. Weight. If a guy gains a couple extra pounds, no big deal. Now God Forbid a girl does and it’s the talk of the town! And then on the flip side, why is it so much easier for a guy to loose weight??

7. Haircuts/Color. $300 vs $25… need I say more?

6. Hair in General. If guys don’t like the way their hair looks they throw on a baseball hat and look completely normal and somewhat cuter. Girls on the other hand, we are just outta luck!

5. Money. Girls spend so much money a month keeping up their appearances… makeup alone is a fortune! But what about tanning, hair, wax, manicures, new outfits – you name it… we probably spend an average of $400 more than men a month!

4. WAXING! The most pain guys have to endure while removing hair is the occasional knick on their face because they are too lazy to go buy a new razor while we are enduring the pain of wax!

3. Hormones. It’s uncontrollable – it takes us girls over! We can’t control it!! And just you wait for menopause…. Guys are so lucky that they have nothing that takes control of their bodies like that!

2. The 'monthly' visitor. (.)

1. Child birth. Not drinking for 9 months! Enough said!!

There are so many more reasons in which a guys life is so much easier than a girls. I didn’t even mention that guys have it so much easier when going to the bathroom – they don’t have to sit down and they can go anywhere (if they need to) or how about the fact that going topless is completely acceptable for these guys!

So I think the debate is settled.... Guys DO get off easier... Now the question is, what do you think?

(Thanks for your help Kristan, I won’t tell Mark!)

Check out Kristan's blog!!!

Carrie: "Men who are too good looking are never good in bed because they never had to be."

If it's FREE it's for ME!

It’s just awful right now – whenever you turn on the tv, pick up a newspaper or check the news online, when they aren’t talking about Madonna & ARod they are talking about one thing….. INFLATION! From gas to food it’s all just enough to make your stomach turn and then you end up just sitting there biting your nails wondering what’s next, how are you going to survive? And more importantly, how you are still going to have the perfect summer on a tight budget? Below are some fun ideas to help save some cash and still have a guaranteed fabulous summer in NYC!

NYC just got a bit cheaper…

Broadway in Bryant Park - FREE!
When: Thursdays from 12:30-1:30pm
Where: Bryant Park

What better way to spend your lunch break than going to get sun in the park while enjoying the Broadway performers sing their hearts out! I just got back from going and I absolutely loved it! Today I saw "Mama Mia," “Avenue Q” and “In the Heights.” Don’t miss Aug 7th when “Spring Awakening” takes the stage!

Win the Lottery!
We all have dreams of winning the Power Ball Jackpot and for you theater lovers this could be your chance! Okay so this isn’t “free” but a $25 front row seat sure does beat the outrageous $120 Broadway tickets these days! Here’s what you do… start googling what Broadway shows have ticket lotteries or “rush” systems and arrive to the theater 2 hours prior to the performance. You will enter your name into the drawing and be eligible for 2 tickets per person, and you must pay cash. If your name is drawn then you will be sitting in the front row… what an experience. Some of the shows that offer the lottery are “Wicked,” “In the Heights,” “Hairspray,” “Avenue Q,” “Grease,” and “Rent” (Hurry! "Rent" ends in Sept!).

What is better than MACARONI & CHEESE??
Tired of spending so much money on food or dinners out? Do you have those cravings of the good ol’ comfort food like me and a serious passion for Mac & Cheese especially when it’s burnt and homemade? Try S’mac! Prices begin at $4.25 and to save even more $$... S’mac is introducing their Happy Hour! Every Monday through Thursday, from 3pm until 5pm, your entire bill will be discounted by 15%, as long as you spend a minimum of $10.00. Not sure what kind of mac to get?
Get some friends together and try the "S'Mac Sampler" for $16 which includes the All-American, 4 Cheese, Cheeseburger (my personal fav!), La Mancha, Cajun, Napoletana, Alpine, and Parisienne! So..... what are you waiting for?!

Happy Hour time!
Your insane day at work is finally over and you 'need' a drink! Sick of spending crazy prices on cocktails? Well now you don't have to be! Check out this website to find the best deals on a happy hour near you. You can find bars that offer 25 cents pitchers of Bud Light, perfect right? That’s a quite way to save some major $$$!

Let’s go to the movies - FREE!

Since when are movie tickets $10.50? And after a night at the movies and dinner you are up to $50! So, to save $$ why not go to Bryant Park to check out the summer film festival. It’s free! You could make this a date, pack a picnic and here's a helpful hint, disguise your wine in water bottles (yes, I have done that before and it worked perfectly!) but don't tell anyone I told you to do it!

Don’t miss Restaurant Week (July 21-25 & July 28 – Aug 1)

I absolutely love that NY offers this affordable way to dine out at the most amazing restaurants in the city for ½ the price. Make your reservations early as they all book quickly. Reservations can be made on opentable.com.

So you think you can dance?
If you are into this show as much as I am this summer and think you want to discover some new dance moves of your own check out “Midsummer Night Swing” at Lincoln Center. This only goes until July 26th so hurry! Each evening begins with a dance lesson at 6:30pm for dancers with all levels of experience and live music begins at 7:30pm. Tickets are $15 which includes the dance lesson!

The Infamous Bohemian Hall Beer Garden in Astoria
I couldn’t think of a more perfect way to spend a Saturday afternoon than sitting with your friends at the picnic tables and listening to all of the fun live bands, and of course perhaps some dancing! The trip to Queens is well worth it and the pitchers of beer are around $12! The Bohemian Hall is a part of New York City history and is the last original remaining Beer Garden in all NYC.

Ride the Beast!
Looking to do something a little more exciting with your out-of-towners than the typical ferry boat ride around the island? Look no further! Take that person on a NY experience that they will never forget…. The Beast. Travel NY harbor at 45mph on the thrilling speedboat! It's a roller coaster, a water ride and 30 fun-filled minutes of high-speed cruising all in one! Tickets start at $17.00.

Shakespeare in the Park - FREE!
I am so excited that “Hair” is coming! Tickets are usually a bit tricky, but if you are one of the lucky ones to snag a ticket, it’s definitely worth it! I am crossing my fingers for "Hair!"

If you are looking to treat yourself (a little)
Go immediately to Mario Badescu for the best facial in New York! Not only the best, but the most moderately priced. I’ve been to Exhale and others and no one compares to Mario! Only $65 for a facial! You can’t beat that in NY!

If the facial is too much, then try Athena's in Queens!

Nothing beats a manicure & pedicure for $23! Oh yeah and they give you a great massage! So, Athena's may be in Queens, but it's just steps from the 30th Ave stop on the N and W train. The wait can be long so call and book an appointment today (718) 278-4597 .

“Beatles” in Astoria Park - FREE!
An evening with all of our favorite songs from the Beatles, but that’s not the only concert (just the one at the top of my list). Pick the park closest to home and check the nycgovparks.org website to see what free events the park is offering each week. Movie nights & concerts can make for a really fun night!

I hope that some of these ideas will be useful when planning your summer on a budget! If you have suggestions for more fun ideas that don’t break the bank, please do share. Gotta LOVE New York, there's always something fun going on and it definitely can work with a tight budget!!

One last thing - a VERY important tip:
Before you book anything – ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS google the event, tour whatever you are doing to find discount codes – they exist you just have to find them!

Enjoy!!

Samantha: "I'm always surprised when anyone leaves New York. I mean, where do they go?"

WHY aren't you married?

On Friday I was out of work early and went home to have lunch. My roommate is a huge Oprah fan and records everyday so I decided to catch up with the big O. Well, wouldn't you know that the show was called, "30 Somethings and Marriage." Really Oprah? On my summer Friday you decide to discuss this?? I obviously needed a beer. I was hoping for an amazing giveaway episode or something on the new movie, "Mama Mia!" Then it got me to thinking... when I was a little girl growing up in Indiana I always figured when I was 30 I would be married with 2 or 3 kids, living in a fabulous house in the Midwest with the infamous white picket fence, probably a teacher and of course I had the “perfect husband.”

So - I couldn't help but wonder.... when we are growing up why are we taught as kids that this is what we should strive for in life? Is everyone put on this planet to marry and have children? If you are in your late 20s and early 30s why are you "supposed" to be settled down and married? What happened to women and their careers and why is it wrong for women to be "single?" I’ll never forget when a high school friend called me to tell me about her engagement, I was so excited for her! But then came those 5 devil-ish words, “So, why aren’t you married?” Really? I am in the midst of congratulating you and the payback I receive is this annoying question, starting with “WHY.” What answer would you like to hear? Or should I just respond in a way that makes you feel like an idiot. How about…. “What and spoil a great sex life?” I bet this would make her feel a bit uncomfortable so she’d drop the subject!

Why do people never ask a male in their late 20s/early 30s that question? Why is the female always asked? And why is there so much pressure to be married? Is there a time frame in dating when you should be married? And is it acceptable "not" to get married and can you do it all on your own? Since when did doing it all on your own, the education, an amazing job, apt/house, be such a bad thing?

Is it because we all live for that “Cinderella” moment, the white picket fence and are eager at any chance we get? I still want those cosmo girl nights! I am sick and tired of people asking me "WHY?" "Why have you been dating the same guy for going on 6 years and not married?" "If I were in that situation I'd kill myself!" Really? You can't be serious, moron. My friend Jenny and I had the most fun conversation about this sharing hilarious stories from people asking us both the same question since we are in similar situations… We both wanted to say, “Stop. We are fabulous and love our lives.” I love every single part about it, perhaps one day I do want to get married, but why rush it? And why must I explain this to you?

Then there are those people that convince you that something is wrong in your life and that you “should” be married by now. You know, it's so easy to "tell" people what to do - but sometimes you just have to stop and “listen” to others (which isn’t as easy as telling people what to do), we are all pursuing different parts of our lives. Everyone moves at a different pace so you should never judge one another. Life is life (sounds so corny, but true) – live with no regrets - you have to go with the flow and trust your instincts.

So I guess the moral of the story is that expectations are changing. Be who you are as a person, value your true friendships, and be fabulous living a happy life moving at your own pace. Whether single or married it's pretty true that we all desire the same thing in the end, love. Love from your friends, your significant other, your children, your pets… yourself. Oprah said it perfectly when she was concluding the show, “Love the people most important to you and that will continue to be our connection to one another.”

Carrie: "Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you - you love, well, that's just fabulous."

Subway Etiquette 101

Subway Etiquette 101

(This post is dedicated to Michelle....)

My friend once described how she gets through her daily subway experience perfectly when she said, "Julie, do what I do when the crowds are awful in the train and no one will move - it works for me everytime! Start singing in your head, Move B*tch get out of the way, get out of the way B*tch, get outta the way..." I couldn't stop laughing, but she's 100% right!

There's always a story to tell about your subway experience here in NY, but seriously let's discuss etiquette. After work yesterday I did my normal routine of going to the gym at Rockefeller Center and afterward was completely exhausted from my workout.... I ran to get on the train and there were only a couple seats left, I was so excited to get a seat (it's a huge accomplishment at rush hour). Of course the couple seats left were "occupied" by a woman's 1) purse and 2) shopping bags! What? Who does that? I kindly asked her to move her purse and she gave me all sorts of attitude! Really? Did her purse pay the $2 to get it's own seat on the train. Then the next woman walks on the train and asks this woman politely to move her shopping bags and she says "no, there's a seat open over there." Are you kidding me?!?!!

So it got me thinking, what are the rules of the subway?

New York Magazine published an interesting article announcing the "Rules of the Underground"

(1) Knees may be no more than six inches apart
(2) If you can't control your offspring, watch as a stranger does it for you
(3) What did we say about checking out the girls?

(4) The Post is only 25 cents—buy your own

(5) Holding the subway door makes everyone on the train love you

(6) As does loud music

(7) Lie down on subway only if dead.

So to add to this article, I have my own favorite subway characters to share that we've all experienced..... do you agree?

(1) THE POLE HUGGER

I think they failed to mention - STOP HUGGING THE SUBWAY POLES! When the trains are packed there is always that 1 person that hugs the pole so no one can grab on... I mean is he serious? And who wants all of those germs on you anyway. I love when they move for a second to switch songs of their ipod or reach for something and I sneak in and grab the pole with 2 hands just to let them know that is not okay to hog the freaking pole!! I don't get it - am I being too rough here?

(2) THE NOSEY NANCY

Okay so it's common knowledge that we as women check out other women - I mean my friend Susie and I talked about it and we dress up for other women, not for men... but why do you have to stare me up in down in the subway car, listen the sneakers only come on when I leave work because I have a long walk home, I swear! I don't really think white sneakers go with my black work pants, give me a break! Or what's with the people who look at your blackberry and try and read what you are texting, is my conversation debating with Kat about what's for dinner really that interesting to you? Are you serious? If you are going to go that far, please by all means share your ideas and recipes! Or how about reading the newspaper over your shoulder? Get your own!! 25 cents or better yet the Metro, it's free! Just take my advice people, close your eyes when riding on the train!

(3) THE CLASSIC JERK

So you are sitting on the train and you see a pregnant woman, elderly person or a small child get on - of course "most" peoples 1st instinct is to get right up and offer your seat to that person... Now what is with these (usually men, sorry) people who don't get up at all, or all of a sudden close their eyes and pretend they are asleep, you have got to be kidding me! Is there any decency left in this world? You are NOT sleeping!

(4) THE ALL IMPORTANT SECURITY GUARD OF THE CAR DOORS

You know when you walk into a department store and there's always a security guard standing at the door? Well, why do people take it upon themselves to "guard" the subway doors too? And to make matters worse when the doors open to let new passengers on, they never move, really Sir? Move to the middle!!! I don't get that... why is everyone so scared of the middle?!!

(5) THE MUSHY COUPLE

Save it for the bedroom!!! Why, why, why must people be all "mush" (as my friend big t would say) on the train!! There is a time and a place and it is NOT and I repeat NOT during my morning commute. Stop it with the kissing and wondering hands, no one wants to see it! Vomit! I just really don't understand why that is okay! I'm getting sick thinking of this... moving on.

(6) THE GROOMER

Last week I heard that ever so familiar sound of clipping - that annoying sound - clip, clip, clip - I 1st cringed and then looked around confused at what it was because of course no one would sink so low to actually clip their nails on the train, but oh wait! It was true... some woman was clipping away and nails were flying everywhere... then she had the nerve to start the filing. Why? Manicures are $6 in Queens - please take my money and go to get your nails done, it will save us all the pain of flying nails and that awful sound. Ps - Your nails look sick anyway, it's not helping.

(7) THE SHORTY 140 WINKER

Why? Why do short guys always think that they can get the short women? I had a case of the "Shorty 140 syndrome" in Dallas and now it's happening on the train. The classic wink, the sick thing they do with their lips, the look up and down - Gross! You have absolutely NO chance sir. Why?! Why do some guys think that giving those looks and licking those lips on a subway car will make us women drop to our knees and say, "YES! Yes! Prince Charming has arrived!! Thank you Jesus!" What a story to tell your kids on how you met there father. Ick! Again, no chance Sir so stop with your gross ways!!

Awww... there are so many "pleasant" people you experience on the subway every morning - these are just some of my personal experiences... there's always the slow mover that figures they'll get their card out when they reach the turnstile and slow everyone else up, the smelly people that grab onto the pole above you, the person that figures it's okay to sing along to their ipods out loud, the people that talk on their cell phones obnoxiously, but I guess that's what makes for some pretty great stories. I think I've perfected the "evil eye" that I give to these folks and thanks to my friend, I've moved a lot faster in the train by that simple song, "Move B*tch get out of the way...."

So the question is to you - do you have any good subway experiences and/or characters to share? Can't wait to hear!!

Perhaps I should have taken Miranda's advice:
Miranda : I had to walk all the way from the subway in these heels. My feet are killing me.

Steve : Why didn't you just carry them and wear sneakers like everyone else?

Miranda : Stop. You can take me out of Manhattan but you can't take me out of my shoes.

It's about time!!

It was 5 years ago................

Since I graduated from College. Eek! That was a scary thing to type! But now I am in New York and absolutely loving it - but it hasn't been the easiest journey so I decided it's time to enter this crazy world of blogging - why not? This should be interesting (bare with me!)...


When I left Cincinnati I had the car, great apartment with pool, dishwasher, washer/dryer, porch - had everything that I thought you were supposed to have or really took for granted... then I moved to NY and what a shock! You mean jobs aren't just handed out to you with your diploma? You mean your parents don't always support you? You have to pay doctor bills, those visits aren't free? I have to push a cart to the laundry mat??? Oh and I need to walk to transportation!! What?? Needless to say, I was scared!!

Life after college in NYC..........

After college most of my friends stayed in Cincinnati, went home to Indy or made the move to Chicago - while I love those cities I knew it wasn't for me... I needed something more - I needed more of an adventure... I wanted to pursue other dreams and other career paths different from the everyday teachers and nurses... but I don't think I realized exactly what I was in for...

I remember when I 1st moved to this crazy city with just a suitcase in hand, staying at Kat & Chris', while being extremely stylish in the black (as Michelle likes to call them) "baggy butt pants." (sorry for saying the "b" word mom!)... Yep, I remember like it was yesterday, getting off of the train on 5th avenue making the 10 block walk to my 1st job in the big apple as a Personal Shopper.... Now you’re probably thinking to yourself, "How much fun a Personal Shopper on 5th Avenue??? So she must have worked somewhere FABulous like Saks, Bergdorfs…" nope! It was American Girl Place!

I was incredibly confident as I walked down 5th Avenue, loving life and couldn't wait to get started! I couldn't wait to get my "office," my "phone," and my "computer..." NOPE again! That's not how it works out at all - we were sharing, what? Oh, and then the kids with the bigger than life diamond earrings and real Gucci bags demanding that their "Personal Shopper" carry their dolls. REALLY? Is this what a private school in Indiana and 4 years at Xavier got me? You have got to be kidding me!

Or I guess the question is, am I just kidding myself because I feel like I should be 'entitled' to something different - what happened to what our parents always used to say - that you have to work from the bottom up, why do we now think we can skip the bottom part?

Luckily it was at AGP where I met 2 of my very close friends, Michelle & Michelle aka "Sertz." The moment we knew we were destined to be life-long friends was when our manager taped "Sex and the City" at home on her VHS and brought it to work asking if anyone missed last nights episode and none of us had cable so we would fight over who borrowed it 1st. I was so thankful to FINALLY meet friends in this intimidating city! I knew our friendships were fate from one simple fact, our love for SATC. From our SATC ring tones to themed b-day parties, the cosmo girl nights, you name it we did it- it was an obsession. One night someone even yelled out their car window when we were walking in Times Square, “Hey SATC Girls!” We loved ourselves! I love NY!

I think Miranda & Carrie said it best:
Miranda: Why do I think living in Manhattan is so fantastic?
Carrie: Because it is.

It was as my mom says, "while I was working my way up in the world" that I learned the biggest lessons. I wouldn't trade the experience for anything. My new friends taught me how to get rid of my midwest ways (for the time being of course) and start acting like a true New Yorker. (Whether that meant pretending I was busy organizing my files while in fact reading US Weekly or not, ha!) We dealt with so many issues at AGP from a crazy Staten Island woman threatening Michelle's life over a stupid doll in which I had to call security (red shopping bags please!), "Annie" double booking a huge group of kids and moms and Michelle & I dealing with the problem the best that we could which included running to Friday's across the street begging and pleading our case for them to help us (damn Annie!) taking over tons of doll high chairs to create the AGP experience there, learning how to deal with all different walks of life, filling in when we were needed and not asking why we had to, just helping. You meet the little girls that have all of the money in the world and buy-out the store and the little girl who had been saving her allowance for 2 years to get that 1st doll and pays you all in quarters or the little girls who's last wish is to come and experience the store and you are the lucky person to spend the special day with her... the stories speak for themselves. All of these experiences definitely created life long lessons that I will always carry with me forever.

During my last months at AGP I was working 2 jobs, 7 days a week, about 70 hours+. My 2nd job was as an intern at Marsh in their Events dept and finally by June of 2005 began full time as an event planner. All of the hard work and tough times finally paid off and now I am traveling all over the world planning events. So I guess it is true... those smaller jobs that help you get to where you want to be.

So I think the moral of the story is - stick it out through the tough times and stay positive, surround yourself with amazing friends (like my IM buddies Kristan & Susie!!) and as long as you are trying the hardest you possibly can every second of the day to accomplish your dreams, you will! Have the courage and determination to succeed and to be the person you are meant to be.

"It’s a funny thing about life: if you refuse to accept anything but the very best, you will often get it."

So that's a little bit about the past 5 years of my life - now we'll see what's up next!

Carrie: "When I first moved to NY and I was totally broke, sometimes I would buy Vogue instead of dinner. I just felt it fed me more."